The second memorial was located beside a primary school, and
we got to talk to and play with the children at the school while we waited.
They were adorable and loved touching our hands and yelling “mazungu” (white
man) at us. Benoit told us later that he went to that primary school when he
was a kid.
At the primary school we asked one of the locals who was
with us (I think it was Jackson but I’m not sure) at what age do children learn
about the genocide. He said that he was taught about it in primary school
(around 5th grade I think) but his parents never talked about it
with him when he asked. I would assume that different people have different
experiences – some parents are probably more open to talking about it than
others. I also thought about the children of Hutus who helped to commit the
genocide – what do they tell their children when they come home and ask about
1994?
On Friday night we went to eat dinner with Serge and Bonheur
at Republika Lounge. They started telling us about traditional Rwandan culture
and it was very interesting. A long time ago, when a man wanted to marry a
woman, he got his father to ask her father and the parents negotiated a price
(usually in money or cows). Then, before the wedding, they put the future
husband and wife in a room and they were supposed to physically fight each
other over the woman’s “dignity”. Very strange.
Bonheur went to the bathroom in the middle of dinner and
Serge told us how Bonheur lost all of his siblings (5) in the genocide. Serge
also lost his parents and 6 (I think) cousins at one of the memorials we went
to earlier that day. He went with us to the memorial and you could tell that he
was having a hard time being there.
At one of the orientations we went to before the trip, a
girl that had already been to Rwanda talked to us about how the genocide
underlies everything. At dinner that night, we asked Bonheur and Serge how old
they were and Bonheur said, “25, I was 6”.
It was a perfect example of how everything in Rwanda comes back to the
events of 1994.
When we came home, Jackson and Benoit were awake and Elizabeth
and I were asked them more about Rwandan culture. Apparently, if a woman gets
pregnant before she is 21 (the legal age to marry) then the father of the child
can get sent to prison. Also very strange.
At 3:30 on Saturday morning we all woke up to go to Akagera
National Park to see animals. It was really fun but being cooped up in a bus
all day without sleep was very tiring.
Regardless, a few of us decided to go out to a restaurant/club when we
got back that night with Serge and Bonheur. It was a lot of fun and they played
a lot of American music – Christina Aguilera and Marvin Gaye. The DJ also was
playing music videos, but they weren’t the official music videos for the songs.
They were hilarious.
I was talking to Bonheur about which type of music he liked
and whether or not he liked Beyoncé. He told me that Beyoncé and Jay-Z were
basically in their own category and was surprised when I told him that it was
the same in America. He asked me what kind of music I liked and when I told him
bluegrass, I was VERY surprised that he knew what that was – although he said
he wasn’t a fan.
When we went to the bathroom, there was a lady in there we
started talking to. She told me she liked my dress and asked me if I came to
that bar a lot. I started talking to her and all of a sudden she started
touching my hair. It kind of took me by surprise but the lady was really sweet,
much like the rest of the people I’ve met here.
Today I slept late and when we woke up some of us went to a
market. We took our first bus ride and that was an experience in itself. We met
two drunk men at the bus stop and one of them asked Emily to marry her and have
his babies. The other one was older and kept calling us “mazungu”, but he was
really nice. The bus stopped and everyone
was telling us to get off because we were at the market, but it didn’t look
like a big market so we were confused. This guy was leading us to the market
but ended up taking us to a bug stop with the same name as the market. But the
market was close by so it wasn’t too far out of the way.
The market was in a more rural part of Kigali and we definitely
stood out from everybody else. Groups of children started following us and
people stared a lot more than they usually do in the center of Kigali. We tried
to speak Ikinyarwanda to them and they laughed for the most part but I think
they appreciated our effort.
We stopped for a late lunch at this random café and had a
plate of nothing but carbs (rice, fries, beans, noodles and potatoes) for less
than 2 dollars. The trip was ultimately successful as we got to see a different
part of the city and it was a very memorable experience.
After today I’ve decided that my favorite part about Rwanda
is the people. The landscapes are beautiful and the crafts and food are amazing
but the people I’ve met in just one week have made this experience so much more
unforgettable. Jackson and Benoit at the guesthouse are two of the sweetest
people and don’t mind it when we constantly ask them to help us with our
Ikinyarwanda or keep them up too late talking about stupid shit. Serge and Bonheur
are very open with us about their culture and always try to show us a good
time. And despite their pasts and the family members they lost in the genocide,
they are still two of the kindest people I know. The people we meet on the streets laugh when
we talk to them in Ikinyarwanda but a lot of them actually help us learn new
words and phrases. The people at the supermarket are always willing to help and
are interested about what we’re doing in Rwanda and always ask if we like it so
far. So I’m so glad I’m here and I’m
learning about interesting topics but the experience would not be the same
without all the wonderful people I’ve met so far.
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